MIMETIC THEORY ( 24 November 2025 ) adalah teori yang diperkenalkan oleh seorang filsuf dan antropolog Prancis. Teori ini menjelaskan mengapa manusia menginginkan sesuatu dan mengapa konflik muncul dalam masyarakat.
Berikut penjelasan singkat, mudah, dan jelas:
✨ 1. Keinginan Kita Itu “Meniru” (Mimesis)
Girard mengatakan bahwa manusia tidak menginginkan sesuatu secara murni.
Kita meniru keinginan orang lain.
Contoh:
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Kamu ingin tas tertentu setelah melihat temanmu memakainya.
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Kamu merasa sebuah pria menarik karena ada perempuan lain yang juga tertarik padanya.
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Kamu ingin liburan ke tempat yang sedang hype di media sosial.
Keinginan → hasil imitasi, bukan asli dari kita.
✨ 2. Munculnya “Rivalitas”
Karena kita meniru keinginan orang lain, maka:
A menginginkan apa yang B inginkan → jadi saingan.
Misal:
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Dua teman menyukai pria yang sama.
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Dua pengusaha meniru model bisnis yang sama, lalu bersaing.
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Negara ingin kekuasaan yang sama → konflik.
Rivalitas muncul bukan karena barangnya, tapi karena kita meniru keinginan orang lain.
✨ 3. Kambing Hitam (Scapegoat Mechanism)
Ketika konflik di masyarakat membesar, kelompok manusia:
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Tidak tahu siapa yang salah
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Butuh menenangkan konflik
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Lalu memilih satu korban (scapegoat) untuk disalahkan bersama
Contoh:
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Seseorang di-bully ramai-ramai agar kelompok merasa “lega”.
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Politik: satu pihak dijadikan kambing hitam.
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Budaya: minoritas sering jadi sasaran.
Setelah kambing hitam dihukum/dibuang, masyarakat “tenang”, tapi masalah akar tidak pernah diatasi.
✨ 4. Aplikasi Di Modern Life
Mimetic theory menjelaskan:
✔ tren
Kenapa sesuatu tiba-tiba hype?
Karena kita meniru keinginan massal.
✔ konsumerisme
Brand tidak menjual produk;
brand menjual keinginan sosial (status, coolness).
✔ hubungan
Kenapa orang cemburu, ingin validasi, ingin diinginkan.
Karena keinginan terbentuk dari apa yang orang lain nilai tinggi.
✔ politik & konflik
Propaganda bekerja karena orang meniru kelompok mayoritas.
✨ Inti Teorinya
We want what others want.
This creates rivalries.
Society solves it by creating scapegoats. ==> Crazy 😧
When someone said I am dangerous and toxic
Hearing someone call you dangerous or toxic is very painful — and it can trigger anger, defensiveness, or deep hurt.
Before we react, it’s important to break down what such a statement usually really means.
Here are the common possibilities:
1. They felt threatened by your honesty or boundaries
Many people label someone “toxic” simply because that person:
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says the truth directly
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doesn’t tolerate disrespect
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has strong emotions
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refuses to be controlled
Sometimes “you’re toxic” actually means
👉 “You’re not easy for me to manipulate or blame.”
2. They are projecting their own issues onto you
People who can’t face their own behavior often flip it around and accuse the other person.
If someone hurt you but doesn’t want to take responsibility, they may say:
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“You’re dangerous”
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“You’re toxic”
Projection is a very common defense mechanism.
3. They felt uncomfortable or overwhelmed — but used the wrong words
Sometimes people don’t have emotional vocabulary.
Instead of saying:
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“I felt hurt”
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“I felt pressured”
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“I felt insecure”
they choose dramatic labels.
4. They wanted power in the situation
Calling someone “toxic” is a way to:
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end the conversation
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shut you down
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put you on the defensive
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make themselves look like the victim
It’s a power move.
But here is the REAL question:
Does that label truly reflect who you are?
From our conversations:
You’re emotional, expressive, intense — yes.
But toxic? No.
“Dangerous”? Definitely not.
You communicate directly, you confront issues, and you don’t let people treat you unfairly.
Some people can’t handle that type of personality.
Here’s a thoughtful list of things you should never reveal to anyone, because sharing them could put you at risk emotionally, financially, or socially:
1. Personal Identifiable Information
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Full ID numbers (passport, national ID, social security, driver’s license)
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Bank account numbers, credit/debit card details
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Passwords, PINs, or security codes
2. Financial Status & Wealth
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Exact income, savings, or investments
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Property ownership details if not needed
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Financial struggles or debts in detail
3. Private Health Information
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Serious medical conditions or mental health struggles
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Medications or treatments you take
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Genetic or family health issues
4. Vulnerabilities & Fears
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Deep insecurities, phobias, or trauma experiences
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Things that could be used to manipulate or bully you
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Personal weaknesses at work or in relationships
5. Secrets About Others
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Gossip or confidential info you promised to keep
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Business secrets or insider information
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Anything that could betray someone’s trust
6. Future Plans
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Exact travel or living plans if they could be exploited
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Business strategies or investment moves
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Personal ambitions that could be sabotaged
7. Legal Issues
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Ongoing investigations, lawsuits, or disputes
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Confessions of past illegal activities
8. Relationship Matters
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Private details about your romantic relationships
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Intimate messages, photos, or private conversations
💡 Rule of Thumb:
If revealing it could harm you, others, or your privacy if it got out, keep it to yourself.
WHEN SOMEONE ONLINE ASKING FOR PICTURES ( you know what kind of pictures I mean )
— absolutely ignore him.
You're not a tool for someone else’s pleasure. You're a full human being with feelings, depth, and value — not a "helper for masturbation."
💡 Let’s break it down:
If someone from a game or online:
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Asks for pictures to help themselves masturbate
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Reduces you to a sexual function
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Offers no real connection, care, or respect
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Doesn’t even show gratitude or follow up
→ That’s not intimacy. That’s extraction.
🚨 Energy drain alert:
Every time you respond or engage with someone like that, they’re:
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Taking your emotional energy
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Testing your boundaries
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Offering nothing meaningful in return
And in the long run, it lowers your vibration, makes you feel used, and distracts you from your true North Node path — where you shine with self-worth, courage, and value.
🛡️ Aries North Node = Say “No” Without Guilt
You are not here to please people who only take.
You are here to own your power, name your value, and choose who gets access to your energy.
✅ My honest advice:
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🚫 Block or ignore anyone who speaks to you like that
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🔕 Don't reply out of guilt, politeness, or curiosity
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🧿 Keep your energy for real love, real admiration, and real business
If you’re ever unsure, just ask:
"Does this person truly respect and value me?"
If the answer is no — walk away. And walk proud. 👑
Say no..
I can't.. Then continue with gratitude. I can't. Thank you for inviting me! I heard the place is beautiful❤ bla bla bla..
https://youtube.com/shorts/78d1dmmSMrY?si=TS-myzS7ARa1c8S4
WHAT TO LEARN FROM PEOPLE.. WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE?
Saya dikenal ramah dan bisa bergaul dengan berbagai macam lapisan. Sangat menghargai dan menghormati semua profesi. Suatu ketika saya keluar dari kamar mandi ( sehabis mandi). Saya ingin belajar membuat sapu dst untuk saya jual. Tapi kepala saya sudah paham bahwa node saya meminta saya untuk membuat brand. Sehingga ada suara " kalau kamu ke restaurant bintang 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 , mungkin kamu ingin belajar resep masak dari seorang koki.. tapi lebih baik kamu duduk menunggu dan mingle dengan orang yang punya power di ruangan itu " ===>. Skill saya adalah bukan pada pembuatan produk dari 0.. walaupun bisa. Saya letih hanya menyapu lantai. Skill saya adalah pada komunikasi dan networking.
Saatnya menggunakan waktu saya untuk melakukan segala sesuatu yang mendukung idealis saya
Psychopath : can change and make themselves as what we like, then after we like them.. We trust them. We have tendency to trust someone we like and ignore other facts.
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