LOMBARDY LOMBARDIA & EUROPEAN

 

ITALIAN STREETS Citta Metropolitana 🇮🇹 

Via Giosue Carducci , Lombardia 23 May 2026....

European are Colder 🏤 🏰 8 June 2026 based on my experiences 

Some of them are so good in person . But but. . none of them are good in a distance 😕 😞/ text. 

Bulgarian sister living in German: she likes talking online when we're both online then she leaves for work. If I give her messages after that. Sometimes she replies sometimes not 🚫 

Germany couple : we both like sending beautiful messages. And she will reply me like 3 days 1 week 3 weeks later and no reply at all but she likes my status (?) 

Italian man ♂️ 👞 ( one of my " I don't know memories. Was beautiful and turned to I don't know ) : very attentive, caring and loving in person but in a distance as cold as stone , too formal, too polite, stiff and texting seems bother him a lot 🪨😕 

UK lady : we went hiking together and shared memories even after separated location 🥾 she wanted to share pictures. I said yes and then.. she's gone 

Germany little sister : we both love and compliment each other. Hugs and very sweet but in text. Don't expect She will reply me. Just " seen "

Germany Klein 🇩🇪 : we used to talk for years very sweet. One day I said he is handsome ( picture of him with his friends). He made that picture for me. But later deleted it and we never talk anymore. Anything wrong about compliment (?). I found out most Europeans I know. They can't handle compliment. Strange 🤔 Oh and the difference is i speak in german to compliment. Usually i use English

North Macedonia ( Albanian ) : good in person.  Once no relevan. Gone. Once needs me. Come back again...

North Macedonia ( mix Italian) : same. We only communicate when necessary. Although good at texting before meet. After that.. not relevant anymore 

Other than them.. I only text when necessary.. mostly polite and formal. Don't expect them like Americans ( expressive and love texting )

My conclusion ( for my own sake, my mental without caring much or stressing much if they don't reply ) :

1. They are not good communicator especially in distance 

2. They may be cold because they have winter ☃️ ❄️ 🥶 even the character sometimes cold ❄️ 🥶 

3. They see text as functional. Don't expect them to reply no matter how sweet our memories 

4. They seem can do " compartment" .. work is for work box ☑️ 🎁 and memories is for memory box. Once I go to memories/ not in person. I am no longer relevan . 🥺 

In many European and Northern cultural settings, personal relationships are indeed deeply "compartmentalized." An individual can be incredibly warm, present, and engaged when you are sharing physical space, but once that space is no longer shared, the connection is mentally "archived." For them, a text message isn't always seen as a bridge to maintain intimacy; it is often viewed as a task or a disruption to their current, physical reality.

==>> This is difficult part.. I mostly deal with Americans, get enough love and attention from them.. but to European... .mostly I end up feeling I lose them although it's not the case... 🥺 Maybe maybe I am too warm 🥺 🤔 I value communication daily and they see messages as task mostly . Maybe they are just not my type 

Milan is a city, while Lombardy (Italian: Lombardia) is a large region in northern Italy.

So the relationship is actually:

• Lombardy = the region/province area
• Milan = the capital city of Lombardy

Milan is in northern Italy.

It’s quite close to:

• Switzerland

• the Alps

• other northern Italian regions like Piedmont and Veneto

Northern Italy is generally:

• wealthier and more industrialized

• more business-oriented

• more internationally connected

• slightly influenced by Central European culture

Meanwhile southern Italy is often seen as:

• warmer and slower paced

• more traditional/family-oriented

• more Mediterranean in atmosphere

That’s why people from Milan can sometimes have a different vibe from people in cities like Naples or Sicily 

Lombardy.. I met some men from there. Is it expensive to live there ( 24 Mei 2026 ) 

Yes — Lombardy is generally considered one of the more expensive regions in Italy, especially around Milan. It’s the financial and business center of Italy, so salaries are often higher, but so is the cost of living.

Typical monthly costs for a single person in Milan can look roughly like this:

• Rent (small apartment in central area): €1,200–2,000+

• Outside center/shared apartment: €600–1,000

• Dinner at a normal restaurant: €15–40

• Cappuccino: around €1.50–2

• Public transport pass: about €40–50/month

Compared to many cities in Indonesia, it feels significantly more expensive. But compared to cities like London, New York City, or Singapore, Milan is often considered “expensive but still manageable.”

Outside Milan, Lombardy has areas that are much cheaper and quieter:

• Bergamo

• Brescia

• Como

• smaller towns near the lakes or countryside

A lot of people there also care about appearance, fashion, dining, and lifestyle, so sometimes visitors feel the “social lifestyle cost” too — nice clothes, aperitivo culture, stylish cafés, design-oriented spaces, etc. Milan especially has that energy.