DECISION MAKING & GOAL

2 October 2023.. GOALS Nightdream.. ( in reality , I sent this message to my partner)

I am hugging you tight 😘 before I woke up, I kept hearing a voice said : set a goal. Clear one. The one that you really want. And make sure you use that as the light 🕯️/ the purpose of your daily life. So that you don't get lost. Without your clear goal... Life has no meaning.

You set your goal to the US while part of you resists to go there because of so many homeless and immigrants all over the news. Redefine your goal, kid. ( I heard this again and again until my alarm turned on ).

HOW TO MAKE A DECISION 30 September 2026

A good decision questionnaire should separate what you want, what you need, what it costs, and what you’ll regret.

🧭 Quick Decision Questionnaire

For each option, answer 0–10:

1. Do I genuinely want this?

2. Is this actually necessary?

3. Will this benefit me in 6–12 months?

4. Does it support my bigger goal?

5. How much would I regret NOT doing it?

6. How much would I regret doing it? (reverse this score)

7. Is the cost—money, time, energy—worth it?

8. Does this create an opportunity I might not get again?

9. Am I deciding from excitement/FOMO, guilt, fear, or pressure?

Then ask these 5 killer questions:

• If nobody knew about my decision, would I still choose it?

• If this used my last available money, would I still do it?

• If I say no today, what exactly do I lose?

• What is the worst realistic consequence? Can I handle it?

• Which choice gives me more peace afterward—not just excitement beforehand?

Simple rule

GO → high desire + meaningful benefit + affordable + acceptable downside.
WAIT → uncertain desire, emotional pressure, or missing information.
NO → mainly guilt/FOMO + significant cost + little real benefit.